Who's Worse...
I've been thinking about a little sequence of events for some time now. And I've arrived at too many conclusions and yet no solution.
The Girl: Pretty faced. Good Natured. 'Normal'. Had something going on with a guy in the very near past. She denied initally thinking things wont work out for them. Guy moved out. Got engaged to someone else and is getting married in the near future. Now our girl feels the shock of the result of her actions. Becomes a zombie. Thinks she was dumb to say 'NO'. Can't get over the fact that things happened the way they did. Is perenially depressed. Still thinks things can work out her way and can't help calling her guy up. Everyday. That guy, amazingly, still talks to her, even as he is getting married to some other poor soul in less than a month. Our girl doesn't really care about the future of the other girl whom the guy is getting married to. She thinks that there is still a chance that she herself can marry this guy even now and everything will be rosy. Again.
The Boy: Another guy. With supposedly strong values. Has never had a relationship. Gets to casually know the girl mentioned above. They become friends. He discovers that they are pretty compatible. Soon, he starts kinda liking her, even though he knows the past and present about the girl. Even though he knows and believes that her actions are unjust and uncalled for, probably even immoral given the fact that she is in touch with her old flame, putting the life of that other girl in peril. He knows that she wants her guy or no one else. Never. Still, he thinks maybe our confused and repentant little girl would get over the whole thing as time goes by and will start liking him. Tries to justify his behavior and thought process by telling himself that 'love makes people do crazy things'. Probably lacks confidence. Thinks he might not find a better girl. Or maybe is not patient enough to wait for the time when he will surely find one. Is probably ready to 'accept' the girl, fully aware of the fact that it will take years, probably more than forever, before the girl forgets her past and truly starts 'loving' him and not just 'living' with him.
Whose worse among the two?
The Girl: Pretty faced. Good Natured. 'Normal'. Had something going on with a guy in the very near past. She denied initally thinking things wont work out for them. Guy moved out. Got engaged to someone else and is getting married in the near future. Now our girl feels the shock of the result of her actions. Becomes a zombie. Thinks she was dumb to say 'NO'. Can't get over the fact that things happened the way they did. Is perenially depressed. Still thinks things can work out her way and can't help calling her guy up. Everyday. That guy, amazingly, still talks to her, even as he is getting married to some other poor soul in less than a month. Our girl doesn't really care about the future of the other girl whom the guy is getting married to. She thinks that there is still a chance that she herself can marry this guy even now and everything will be rosy. Again.
The Boy: Another guy. With supposedly strong values. Has never had a relationship. Gets to casually know the girl mentioned above. They become friends. He discovers that they are pretty compatible. Soon, he starts kinda liking her, even though he knows the past and present about the girl. Even though he knows and believes that her actions are unjust and uncalled for, probably even immoral given the fact that she is in touch with her old flame, putting the life of that other girl in peril. He knows that she wants her guy or no one else. Never. Still, he thinks maybe our confused and repentant little girl would get over the whole thing as time goes by and will start liking him. Tries to justify his behavior and thought process by telling himself that 'love makes people do crazy things'. Probably lacks confidence. Thinks he might not find a better girl. Or maybe is not patient enough to wait for the time when he will surely find one. Is probably ready to 'accept' the girl, fully aware of the fact that it will take years, probably more than forever, before the girl forgets her past and truly starts 'loving' him and not just 'living' with him.
Whose worse among the two?
Thoughts of Victim Of Desire at
11:36 AM
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yeh hai meri kahani
khamosh zindagani
sannata keh raha hai
kyun zulm seh raha hai
ek dastaan purani
tanhayi ki zubani
her zakham khil raha hai
kuch mujh se keh raha hai
chubtay kantay yadoon ke daaman say chunta hoon
girti deewaron ke aanchal mein zinda hoon
bass yeh meri kahani
benishaan nishaani
ek darr beh raha hai
kuch mujh se keh raha hai
chubtay kaanten yadoon ke daaman se chunta hoon
girti deewaron ke aanchal mein zinda hoon
//poetry interlude start:
{bajay pyaar ki shabnum mere gulistaan mein
baraste rehte hain har simt maut ke saye
siyahiyon se ulajh padti hain meri aankhein
koi nahi .. koi bhi nahi jo batlaye
kitni der ujalon ki raah dekhoonga
koi nahi hai koi bhi nahi
na pass na durr
ek yaar hai...dil ki dharkan
apni chahat ka jo ellan kiye jaati hai
zindagi hai jo jiye jaati hai
khoon k ghoont peeye jaati hai
khwaab kaanto se siye jaati hai} //poetry interlude end
ab na koi paas hai
phir bhi ehsaas hai
sihaiaon mai uljhi padi
jeene ki ek aas hai
yaadon ka jungle yeh dil
kaanton se jal-thal yeh dil
chubtay kaanten yaaaaadon ke daaman se chunta hoon
girti deewaron ke aanchal mein zinda hoon
seth: welcome back man.. kahan tha ab tak beta!! amazing poem..kidhar se uthaayi...
and yeah, you did not answer my question...
I guess no one's worse..both of them are right at their place..both are optimistic
chaman: in a way you are right...both are optimistic...but will such a setting ever work...if the setting ever happens in the first place...
Almost 90% of time it is same situation..and such setting does work out..but either boy/girl needs to take initiative..in this case i guess boy should take it..
You have made a "template" dude. Amazing! Can be applied to any person. You are good man...
i think u have just cited one of ekta kapoor's many crazy yet popular story lines..... i bet she cud make a thousand episodes on just this pithy.... so beta looking frm the soap opera p.o.v. i guess the girl becomes a vamp and the boy is the typical jilted lover boy.... wherein both have failed in their attempts to attain their objective so now all they wanna do is make all's life a miserable..... and then aftr a 25 year leap wen their kids r abt to marry then suddenly the girl comes around 2 acknowledge the boys feeling n the boy (by now married 2 a drop dead gorgeous but suddenly undesirable 2 the boy once the girl consents) will stupidly rekindle the romance 2 culminate in marriage leaving their kids 2 say HAILA! Yeh Kya???..... then depending on whether the show wants 2 be progressive or digressive the kids will fight back or jst give way & become brother-sister {tht aftr having already slept together} giving the serial the much in demand incestual touch 2 boost TRPs..... and so on & so forth....
P.S. Man!! aftr all these years i still remember The Bold & the Beautiful.... my fav wet dream fantasy. Yahoo!!!
ek baat poochna tha? is the boy in ur story a gadha, duffer, retarded, ugly, despicable, rotund, gone case, depressed, bad looking, etc???......... or is he like ME! :D :D :D
when both of them want it to work ,then it works..
and if one of them is kinda distracted , then its always as bad as nothing for the one who wants it to work.....
try watching -- Before sunrise//before sunset .......talks about these lost love issues...
chaddi: let's wait and watch what the boy does in this case..i think a six month time frame should give the result..
rian: hehe:-)..i never new that this was a template. So this is not a rarity after all, eh? Good for the morale of that guy..:)
pakya: Baat to sahi hain...lekin sali zindagi bhi to complicated hain bhai..your comment sheds some light on why ekta kapoor serials work so much..i had never thought in that direction :)...and Bold and the Beautiful = 10th grade memories..hehe...
and yeah, the boy in the story is just like u **thodi der ke liye khush ho ja**
manish: Yeah, thats what even I think..but u never know..only time will tell...thanx for visiting my blog and keep coming back!!!
ha ha ha..agree with what you have to say about ekta kapoor's comedies(ya, they make me laugh). You will laugh too, if you think about how stupid and full of sh*t those serials are.
arrey yeh khushi ka lamha hoga ya gham ki sadi.... yeh toh uss ladke (kahi woh tu toh nahi????... saale doosre k kandhe pe rakh kar bandook chala raha hai kya?) ki kahani k end pe nirbhar hai..... waise jo bhi ho par woh thodi der tak hi seemit nahi rahegi..... kyuki tu jaanta hai.... apan kabhi badlega nahi... jaisa hai waisaich rahega { aur bad luck yeh hai k apni gaandu KISMAT bhi yaich bolti hai..)..... so let the STATUS QUO remain (famous last words of any politico worth his/her salt).........
venky: padharo sahab!! u are so right about ekta kapoor..infact i have joined a club all "ekta kapoor stinks" on www.orkut.com
pakya: abe sale...iska matlab hain ki tu hamesha tharki hi rahega..hehe... :)..dekhte ke kahani ka end kaise hota hain...
if i may cite the 'worse' i think it would be the guy she is already in love with. he is obviously the one who is capable of instilling some sanity into the situation, but is letting things drive to some chaos.
he could just let the phone ring.
the other two, the boy and girl u are comparing, well they're just wabi-sabi, a pretty shade of melancholy.
ck: i second your opinion...absolutely true...
this may be a template like some people have mentioned in earlier comments. but i think there are real life examples that we know off!
neo: Do you know an example too?? This situation is turning out to be more common than I thought it could...
i think ck is right..the guy is letting run situation in chaos..he should take control of situation and enlighten the girl..
hey puniya.... true pyar aur true dard ka bahut gehra sambandh hai and has more power than any other combo.... and how.. i guess this has been the most comments eliciting blog u have to date..... thats the power of love.... its attracts those u've been thru it n those u wanna go thru it..... thts 100% i guess...... chal i'll add another song tht might reflect atleast the boy's state of mind.... ( if not then u shud've knw better than 2 trust my judgement abt emotions)
Maine dil se kaha, dhoond laana khushi
Nasamajh laya gum, to yeh gum hi sahi
Maine dil se kaha, dhoond laana khushi
Nasamajh laya gum, to yeh gum hi sahi
Maine dil se kaha dhoond laana khushi
Bechaara kahan jaanta tha
Khalish hai yeh kya khala hai
Shehar bhar ki khushi se
Yeh dard mera bhala hai
Jashna yeh raaz na aaye
Mazaa toh bas gam main aaya hai
Maine dil se kaha, dhoond laana khushi
Nasamajh laya gum, to yeh gum hi sahi
Kabhi hai ishq ka ujaala
Kabhi hai maut ka andhera
Bataao kaun bes hoga
Main jogi banu ya lutera
Kayi chehre hai is dil ke
Najaane kaunsa mera
Maine dil se kaha dhoond laana khushi
Nasamajh laya gum, to yeh gum hi sahi
Hazaaron aaise phaasle the
Jo Tai karne chale the
raahe magar chal padi thi
Aur peeche hum rah gaye the
kadam Do chaar chal paaye
Kiye phere tere mann ke
Maine dil se kaha, dhoond laana khushi
Nasamajh laya gum, to yeh gum hi sahi
Maine dil se kaha, dhoond laana khushi
Nasamajh laya gum, to yeh gum hi sahi
P.S. puniya n all u guys n gals out there...... u must watch RANG de BASANTI.... i found it 2 b a FAB film... a must watch.... dont miss. { puniya tera $10 vasool ho jaayega }
seth: Another good one...kahan se utha raha hain yeh sab gane bhai. Howz life..will give you a call soon..
about RDB, I read the reviews on both indiatimes and rediff and they both say it is good...and all my friends who were in india this december, said the promos looked good...i think it generated the kind of expectations that the promos of DCH..the spirit of youth??!!
absolutely man..... but in this case i had very minimum expectations cause frankly speaking the promos didnt quite excite me enuf 2 make it a must see.... but boy was i wrong... eeet eees a FAB-U-Lous movie..... alright some may say the end is a totally larger than life n this n tht..... but i tell u wat... there was hardly ne moment where i thought i was losing my zeal 2 watch.... it was pure entertainment n paisa vasool film......n as far as hindi fillums go i guess thts excellent....it has the right amount of energy 2 keep u interested..... tu picture zaroor dekhna........dont expect nething & u'll be pleasantly surprised...
aur ab naya blog likh.... yeh bahut khich gaya hai..... bye...
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